19th+century+demeanor

Demeanor of 19th century men. Never picked teeth, scratched head, cleaned nails or ever picked nose in front of company. If your going into the presence of ladies beware of onions,spirits and tobacco. Do not play with the table utensils or crumble the bread. Do not put your elbows on the table, or sit too far back, or lounge. Do not talk loud or boisterously. Be cheerful in conduct or conversation. Never, if possible, cough or sneeze at the table. Never tilt back your chair while at the table, or at any other time. Do not talk when the mouth is full. Never make a noise while eating. Do not open the mouth while chewing, but keep the lips closed. It is not necessary to show people how you masticate your food. Never indicate that you notice anything unpleasant in the food. Eat soup with the side of the spoon, without noise. If you wish to be served with more tea or coffee, place your spoon in your saucer. If a dish is presented to you, serve yourself first and then pass it on. If a course is set before you that you do not wish, do not touch it. Use a napkin only for your mouth. Never use it for your nose, face or forehead. Demeanor of 19th century women. Always Graciously accept gentlemanly offers of assistance. Wear gloves on the street, at church and other formal occasions, except when eating or drinking. When crossing the street, one must lift her dress a bit above the ankle while holding the folds of her gown together in her right hand and drawing them toward the right. It was considered vulgar to raise the dress with both hands as it would show too much ankle, but was tolerated for a moment when the mud was very deep. When introduced to a man a lady never offers her hand, she merely bows politely and says, "I am happy to make your acquaintance."

Never Refer to another adult by his or her first name in public. Grab your hoops [of your hoop skirts] or lift your skirts higher than is absolutely necessary to go up stairs. Lift your skirts up onto a chair or stool, etc.[to sit down]. Sit with your legs crossed (except at the ankles if necessary for comfort or habit). Lift your skirts up onto the seat of your chair when sitting down (Wait for, or if necessary, ask for assistance when sitting down at a table or on a small light chair). Speak in a loud, coarse voice.